What A Woman Needs

If you notice she is quiet, ask her what is wrong.  If you already know what is wrong and you don't want to hear it, get yourself mentally right with it and ask anyway.  Be prepared for a conversation, because that is probably what she needs.  Give her your time, attention, and eyes, because that is probably what she needs as well.  If she tells you nothing is wrong, give her some space.  Give her more than an inch of space and give her half an hour or so and softly try again.  Be kind and be persistant. 

If you want more of her, give her less of you.  If this doesn't make sense, think about it.  The more you cling to something the more it backs away.  The more space you give it, the more the heart desires.  Some personalities are made like that.  Some personalities don't need much human touch.  They need it, everyone does, but maybe not as much as the next person.  Recognize the character and personality in her and know what she needs.  What he needs is very important as well, but both needs must be met for harmony.  If she needs a lot of the physical stuff (hugs, hand holding etc) then try to meet in the middle.  If she needs less of that, then here again, try to meet in the middle or for a balance of time, don't give those things.  Be there but not attached to her side.  It's possible.  Step out of your box, try it.  It may not be what you need, it may not be the norm, but try a different approach.  Go slowly, easily, softly but stand your ground when you need something. 

I need a lot of huggy, touchy, eye contact, and yes, I guess, attention.  I don't always get it, but I he gives it when he can and I soak it up.  He doesn't need all that.  I recognize that.  I give it probably more than he needs but we have found a happy medium and we both know each other pretty well so we don't have so much of the push and pull anymore.  We balance nicely. 

A woman needs consistency and truth.  Say how you feel but understand she probably won't agree with you all of the time.  Be thankful for 50/50 agreement.  Men and women think differently; add to that different personalities blending in conjunction and figuring out how to make all work.  It's tough.  The road is not perfect and there are so many bumps and pauses for thought, questioning the relationship, questioning God, but in the end, your soul mate is your soul mate.  The one who knows you the best.  There is no denying that.  The one she calls first for any little thing, and most large things.  If you are that guy for her and she is that girl for you-work hard, because it takes a LOT of hard work. 

I've been in my marriage for almost 16 years and while that is still a young marriage, we've been through some really tough things.  We are still standing, and looking at each other loving the other one, through it all.  At the end of the day, isn't that all that matters?  Walking through this life with the one you cherish the most?  Life is so very fragile and short.  It just is.