What I love about us is that there is never a dull moment. We never ever run out of things to say. If we are both decidedly quiet, there is something brewing and we both know better than to say what we are thinking--at least YET. Call it reserved wisdom we have learned along the way. Other than those times, it is non stop talking, discussing, vetting, chattering about life and the pursuit of happiness.
If we are alone, eating out, I usually check out those around us. Many times I see couples eating in silence not even looking at each other or smiling. I see that a lot. I'm thankful, so thankful we are not that. Having said that, when we come across a point of dispute, it can get pretty heated. I sort of love that too. Fire. Passion. We keep that behind closed doors.
Then there are times when I am clearly wearing his butt out. I can see it in his eyes. If I linger too long on a point (as I'm WELL known to do) I lose him quickly. I have to reel him back in, I say something slightly jarring and he's back, then I have to chose my words carefully to keep him with me. It's a trick, you have to be really good at it. I've crafted the skill well. Every now and then, I can't get him back, and I lose him to something more interesting; a ball game, music, the kids fighting (which I'm currently ignoring for my own good). It's the blank 'uh huh' and the quick look away and the quick mis timed 'uh huh' again which makes no sense and I know, I've lost him.
Mostly I am short to the point and try not to stay too long on one topic. It works. We have become like a well oiled engine, humming along happily. Potholes are waiting to bait us and reel us in, and we do hit them, sometimes going way too fast. It causes a big flat tire from time to time but the one who still has lots of energy and air, fills the other one up and we get back on the road pretty quickly. That's what I love about us. Always there. Talking, sometimes way into the night....making sure the other is ok or unexpectedly discovering new things about each other, even after all these years. It's communication. It rocks. It helps couples stay strong. Pretty cool.
-J
You cook, you clean, you go to work, you nourish, you love, you scold, you are professional and yet you hang your hat on every dust particle in your home. You are a woman. Some women are Moms and some are not. You are still a woman. We are all made similarly. We are strong.
1 comment:
I like this post! Hopefully I will find that one day...I agree that communication is the key and the glue. Dad told me I was too damn mean for anyone to deal with me. Haha we shall see :) Love you!
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