Mothers Who Don't Deserve Babies

I work for a Property Management Company here locally where I live. I have seen a LOT of things. Things that normal people (what am I not normal?) would never even dream of. I have worked for this company for just over ten years now and have learned to chalk a lot of it up to life and what can you do, almost form a hard shell about it all so it can't penetrate through and truly affect me. Maybe this sounds callous, but it's how you stay healthy about what you do and continue loving it. You get involved sometimes but now it's become rare that I truly truly do. I kind of watch from afar in a sense. Absolutely get my hands dirty, absolutely will help anyone with anything but at the end of the day, I have learned to compartmentalize and move on.

There is a resident at one of the communities who turns my stomach and I've never even met or seen her. She has a toddler. She should not be a mother; of this I'm sure. Ok, that is harsh, I will say I'm sure she needs help. She has twice now, on two separate occasions, fallen asleep, with the baby only in a diaper, and allowed by her lack of mothering and simple basic supervision at the least, her child to open the front door and walk right outside. This child has been found TWICE, weeks apart, wandering in the community. The last time, the child was almost to a very busy road in front of the property. UNTHINKABLE. Both times Social Services were called out and both times for whatever reason the child was given back to the mother. And people wonder what is wrong with our society? Pest control had gone in her apartment during the time the child was wandering and the woman had two tv's on, was sound asleep on the couch with no child to be found. Hearing this made me viscerally sick. There are hundreds, no thousands of women who would gladly take this poor child. This child who does not deserve this treatment. This child deserves love and caring and basic ATTENTION. Not this.

I cannot, in twelve million years even fathom or remotely fractionally consider EVER letting my little one OR my big one 'outside' without supervision. Or turning my back so they can get outside with no supervision. This just boggles my mind. And I don't even WANT to think about what the mother might do to the child when Social Services leaves. Is there punishment? I don't know. It's not fair for me to say of course, but you know, the mind wanders...

Yes our children can drain us, run us ragged, take all of our energy at times, and when we are sick we get no days or time off, we don't, at least I know I don't. And during all those times, yes, we are wild in our minds with crazy thoughts. But those thoughts leave us in two seconds because we know, we know without a shadow of a doubt, that our children are our lives and it's our job to protect them. If we can't it's the governments job to step in-simply because that is how our country is set up-I don't know if I necessarily believe that is the best resolution but someone has to and that someone in our society and country is Social Services. Too many times you hear horror stories about children and mothers where they slipped through the cracks and something went very wrong. I pray that does not happen in this case. This is hard to block out! I care too much about kids and little innocent babies, to let myself go unaffected by hearing these stories.

I wonder if I can call Social Services myself and inquire. I'm so sure I cannot. Privacy laws. But does SHE deserve the benefit of those laws if she cannot take care of her child? Maybe she is depressed, can't stop sleeping, I don't know...but someone help her. Maybe the bigger issue is, someone help those in our country who cannot help themselves. Maybe we need an overhaul, a new way of "doing business" a new leader, a new outlook, healthcare revisions, ok ok ok, you see how all this grows into something else?

D.O.N.E.

I pray for that little child. I did last night and I will again tonight. Maybe it's all I can do.

J