Are children meant to be perfect? Are they supposed to never push your buttons? Are they never to try to find the limit or the line in which they cannot cross? If a child obeys perfectly is there something wrong with that child? Are they then afraid of that parent in a bad way? Is this a good thing?
Is there a happy medium in which a child should 'operate' or live in? In other words, wouldn't it be normal to expect some sort of pushing of the limits from a child who is learning their way or is that just me making excuses for some weakness of mine? I'm not hard enough as a parent. I let my child walk all over me. He gets away with murder. I'm not saying anyone of those three statements are true. They are not. I'm saying, is that the perception? Really I don't care what the perception is except for it's bothering me enough to write about it. Hmmmm....
Are we to be glared at, stared at, or are others to shake their heads at my child or myself in my interaction with my child? How 'perfect' should a child be? Can the child never question? If the child does not question he won't then learn--correct? If I say no to something, and the child keeps pushing for the thing he wants, does that make the child horrible, or myself horrible?
Is the child then horribly behaved? What are the boundaries?
I'll tell you. I know it's healthy for a child to push. It's healthy for them to figure out the boundaries without having such super high demands on them. They are JUST CHILDREN. Maybe we must remember that. I try to. Sometimes, I feel as though I'm on him TOO much. I have to reign myself in....If they were 'perfectly perfect' all of the time, then there would be no learning to do, no growing, no figuring out what life is about. That just can't be right, can it? That wouldn't be normal would it?
Does anyone WANT a child who is perfectly well behaved? Is there such a thing as a very perfect child?? I don't want a child who curses at me or even uses curse words. I don't want a child who is far ahead of his time in what that child is allowed to do or say. I want happy medium. That is what I'm striving for. How about this????
I'd rather do the child rearing and let those that shake their heads at me and my child figure it out for themselves.
Jenn
You cook, you clean, you go to work, you nourish, you love, you scold, you are professional and yet you hang your hat on every dust particle in your home. You are a woman. Some women are Moms and some are not. You are still a woman. We are all made similarly. We are strong.
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