Sometimes women get taken for granted. Who am I kidding? They get taken for granted a lot. It's a vicious circle really. The husband takes the wife for granted and the wife mentally retaliates and begins to rebel in ways that are sometimes intangible. If someone were to try to pick it apart and figure out why the woman was doing what she was doing, there would be nothing to point to. She might even feign innocence about the whole thing. -Women are creative, smart, and intuitive. Not saying its right for her to react that way. Probably best to talk about it. Men hate talking. If the woman is already upset about being taken for granted and subconscious mental games have ensued then 'talking' is likely another rung to climb.
Back to women getting taken for granted. I wonder if this is largely an American thing. I don't know. Everything in this country is so fast. Hurry, to do this and that. Sign the kids up for this and that. Take them here and there, say yes to lots of extra committees, add it to an already full plate, intertwine a couple's relationship and the importance of cultivating it and wala. Could make for a big giant mess and tangled up knot of how to figure out which way is up, who should be doing what, who is cooking dinner, WHAT'S for dinner, and oh, the parents have to have special time for them too? Yes. They do.
Cooking, cleaning, laundry, dusting, bathrooms, well deserved attention to the kids so they can grow and become balanced, work, keeping up with activities, homework help if needed, and then the relationship. It's a lot. And the whole time, women can get very taken for granted.
Let her know you appreciate all she does. Send flowers. Leave a surprise note where she has to find it later. Take her out...your idea...not hers. Make the effort. One day, she might be gone. Heaven just might appreciate her and show it more than she ever got on Earth.
Sometimes this is a woman thing. I'm sure it can be a man thing too. Right now, I'm speaking from a woman's perspective. I could make it sound all dramatic and say "Women rule the world, without them everything would be in a pile on the floor...." etc etc. I'm not saying that. I'm just saying. Watch her. See how hard she works. Watch the circles she does around everyone in the whole house as you relax and enjoy. If you care and appreciate, let her know every day in every way. I know, I know. That's work too. But give it a whirl. It can make a huge difference in the harmony of her world and your home. That is...if you love her; and I'm sure you do.
You cook, you clean, you go to work, you nourish, you love, you scold, you are professional and yet you hang your hat on every dust particle in your home. You are a woman. Some women are Moms and some are not. You are still a woman. We are all made similarly. We are strong.
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