The Right Thing

Hmm. Is it right to do the right thing when the person it will probably (persons really) affect is a friend but you've grown that friendship, strange as it is at work so you work with them too? I don't know. If you're at work and you have to make a decision about information passed to you and that information has to do with that 'friend' in not such a positive way...... and you are in a position above that person..... what would you do? In other words, and here's how convoluted it is---

The 'friend' said some probably inappropriate things to an old co worker who used to be my 'boss'. My old 'boss' and I are friends, we have a lot in common and some things not so much but at the end of the day, we are friends, definitely. That old 'boss' told me the things that the person at work, who I'm above, who is a strange kind of friend to me said. Those things were very much work related and I felt needed to be brought to light. I could have held it in. I could have let it all pass and watched the aftermath with a sort of "I knew this was going to happen" attitude. But the thing is, I didn't want the two things that she said to really come to fruition. So I told my new 'boss' and I felt much better. Much. Conversations were had quickly with a couple of the people it affected and now it's quite obvious who said what and when etc.

What should I have done? I feel I'm in the doghouse in a way with my old 'boss'/friend and definitely think I'm in the doghouse from the person at work. What was the right thing? You see, I strongly believe that if she had never said any of this in the first place to my old boss, none of this would ever have happened. I feel that I would have been betraying the company I work for and the relationship I'm trying to form with my new boss, which I think is going well, if I had not have said these things. HOWEVER what's worse? Betraying a friend or betraying the stuff at work? AND what if the people at work are friends too? It's all twisted. I think I did the right thing but I know when I go back after my break, I'll have to have a conversation with the person who started all of this. I'm sure she's very upset. I'm sure she is. I feel she was in the wrong for even saying these things...but if I know her, she won't be able to see that, because she felt she was saying this to a friend in our old boss. But you just can't SAY that stuff and expect no repercussions.

Clearly I don't know why I'm writing this here. It appears I have it all figured out anyway huh? I don't. I so don't.

What's right? What's wrong? If I needed to learn from this, please tell me. It's hard for me to see clearly in this situation. To many twists and turns and also ridiculous to have to deal with this crap at work anyway. Waste of time all of this at the end of the day when the two people all of this has to do with denied saying the stuff anyway. It's like running a little rat race and getting nowhere. Now isn't THAT a waste of time?

ugh
Jenn