Do you know if what you are doing is right? Seriously, how? Although there are thousands and thousands of books and how to's out there, who is right? What is right?
You talk and you talk. You try and you try. You want them to be on the 'right track' to learn right from wrong, to just grow up happy. You want them to have a wholesome and grounded childhood.
You DON'T want them to learn horrible language at the age of seven. What is this world coming to? How do other parents talk at home? In front of their children that their children come to SCHOOL and repeat these things therefore spreading all the crap that is spewed to them at home.....and how you respond to all that....oh its just so frustrating.
Do the right thing. Speak calmly, reiterate it over and over in a loving way. Oh and when the Assistant School Principal calls you at work to tell you your child allowed another child to coerce him (and she did say that) into this whole 'she was going to write a 'bad' word, the "f" word on his paper', and then he let her write it there, right there on his paper for all to see, including the teacher and her assistant, you just calmly listen, while your stomach balls up in knots. You explain to that Assistant Principal that your family does NOT talk like that at home, in fact quite the opposite. You feel the absolute NEED to make sure she knows that. And what are you to do? Is it the more you shelter that child, the more he finds himself in questionable situations? Here is what I want to know.....is this normal for all kids? Am I over reacting?
She put him on the phone with me and his little voice, which was barely arely audible, squeaked over the line, and all I could say was, "I love you Oldest. Do you hear me? I love you. We'll talk about this later." I knew he had to get through his day and I knew he was torn up being in her office. If I had berated him on the phone, he would have been sick and beside himself the rest of the day.
When do you know what you're doing is right? I dont' know. We love him and we are there for him. It's not the end of the world, I get that. I just worry. Well, of course I worry, it's my job to worry. What is WRONG with people? I don't know.
----I will keep on, we will keep on, it's all we can do.
Jenn
You cook, you clean, you go to work, you nourish, you love, you scold, you are professional and yet you hang your hat on every dust particle in your home. You are a woman. Some women are Moms and some are not. You are still a woman. We are all made similarly. We are strong.
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I am constantly telling Derek that he did not come with any instructions and you know how daddy just has to have them just has to read them so sometimes we're just at a loss.
I am so sorry. No one said it was going to be easy to be sure but someone could have warned us that it would be THIS hard.
Sending love from Cali.
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