With all this stuff in the news for the past month or so about MySpace.com I've been thinking a lot about whether or not it's right to spy on your kids. Pretty much I've come to the conclusion you have to. I think as long as you are up front about it (let them know you want to know everything and will be checking behind everything) and don't lie to them, you should. It's true kids need a sense of privacy, especially as they begin to get a bit older; but shrouded in that mask of privacy lays God knows what.
I will be spying. I will be looking over their shoulders. And in the end, they'll know I love them.
Thoughts?
You cook, you clean, you go to work, you nourish, you love, you scold, you are professional and yet you hang your hat on every dust particle in your home. You are a woman. Some women are Moms and some are not. You are still a woman. We are all made similarly. We are strong.
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Here's what I want to say about Myspace. Lots of the "kids" I work with have places on Myspace so I went over there and checked it out. Some of the kids from work know my cousins (early 20's) and I saw they had pages too. It was sort of shocking but they are pretty open with me and their folks about what they do (drinking they are legal) so that was no surprise. BUT THEN I found Dom's brother. Again early 20's. I read that he smokes. Wants a tatoo, has doubts about his girlfriend... it was shocking we didnt know any of this. He felt he could open up to his peers and some strangers about these things but not us.
Then I tought about my boys. Will I be on the internet as much as I am now? (probably) will I find blogs or web pages of theres?
After reading Dom's bro's page we emailed him just this and that and it opened up so on some levels I think it helped to open a dialogue.
You have to watch your children all of their lives. I say this to Dom's mom all the time. You cant just say they're fine and be done. No. I entend to be in my childrens lives forever. I didnt have them because I wanted babies. I had them because I wanted to bring people in to this world. Know what I am saying.
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