Best Moment?

What was your best moment today? ......I had several.

• Went Easter outfit shopping for the kids with my sister and mom. Fun!
• Got to put red gel in the oldest's hair for Dr. Suess day at school. Fun!
• Played with J one on one; really good quality time with much bonding mamma and son. Fun!

The best of all was starting a new journal with the oldest. I told him it's the start of a new life where we focus only on the good. Got this idea from his teacher. I like it. If he misbehaved in school or didn't listen, it's likely one thing out of a hundred yet I'm focusing on the one thing. No more. In the journal, he will only write good things that happened to him that day or good things he did. Anything negative is not important (in terms of journal writing). Hence focusing on the good and getting positive attention for the good. So after he wrote his first entry, I followed suit and did mine. He read my entry and I read his. It was such a wonderful thing. I think this will be good good good. I hope it works but even if it doesn't, I can already tell he's excited about our 'new life' because at dinner I told him to tell Dad about our new idea and he said he already had. This was a good sign! So then he proudly shows him the journal and all of his homework...NOW the part that KILLED me is that he got a warning today about something that happened in music and his teacher told me it was insignificant compared to his day which was fabulous and for me not to even ask him about it. Don't focus on it she said. I followed her directions and have not asked him what he did in music (I'm dying to know...omg did he like hit someone on the head? Did he spit at the teacher? Did he sit when he was supposed to stand? Being silly but still, I'm beside myself to know!). Regardless, we'll try this out for a week or so (or however long I can take it) and see if it makes a positive difference in his behavior. I am hoping he doesn't say "oh, I won't get in trouble, not even anyone gonna ask me about what I did wrong? Wooooo HOOOO!" cause oh buddy, then we're in trouble with a capital T! He is bright. He gets it all. Doesn't skip a beat. I'm hoping he skips this beat and just goes with the flow. Focus on the positive! Ignore the negative. Only gets attention for positive things, does not get attention (or gets ignored on the) for the negative things.....

I can do this. However it turns out, the best part of my day was sitting with him, sharing and writing. That alone is worth all the gold in the world. No?

---J